Take a look at Darren Hart’s blog in America’s Premiere Experts newsletter where he discusses empowerment.
“Conflict is the pursuit of truth.” — Patrick Lencioni
Though out my legal career I have always been dedicated to EMPOWERMENT, to assist those that want to grow and achieve their full potential and to providing guidance in this regard to those that find themselves powerless, persecuted, oppressed, tormented, intimidated and bullied, often in the context of legal conflict. EMPOWERMENT allows you to gain self-actualization, to realize your full potential. In order to achieve this you need objective perspective on yourself. Are you on the PATH TO EMPOWERMENT?
You are EMPOWERED when:
- You do not need external sources of love or approval.
- You know who you are and what you stand for and love who you are and what you stand for.
- Your ideas primarily govern your actions not your emotions.
- You have a developed an unshakeable set of values and act according to them.
- Your life is about adding value to the world and you are prepared to sacrifice self for this.
- You have a number of key behaviors which likely include some or all of the following:
- you seek truth before comfort;
- you never let anyone, thing or situation undermine your confidence;
- you are forgiving of others and yourself;
- you are vulnerable with those who look up to you;
- you stand up to and hold people accountable on manipulative behavior, including bullyism, victimhood and indifference;
- you are goal driven but live in the moment;
- you take full responsibility for your life experience no matter what;
- you are always growing, evolving and getting better.
- You have PURPOSE!!!
If you are internally conflicted or unsure about who you are, what you stand for, what makes you happy and what your purpose is, you are not alone you are merely on the PATH TO EMPOWERMENT and in PURSUIT OF TRUTH about you. Some questions to ask yourself and to ponder are:
- Who am I? Do I have honest, objective perspective on myself?
- Do I like me? Do I need approval from others to like myself or be emotionally at peace?
- Do I take full responsibility for all of my actions, good and bad?
- Am I manipulative or a bully or a victim or indifferent? Do I recognize these behaviors in others? Can I hold myself or others accountable on such behaviors?
- Can I say “NO”?
- What makes me happy? (should not be dependent on a specific person or persons)
- Am I forgiving? Do I look for the good in others?
- Am I goal driven? If not, why not?
- How do I contribute to a better world?
- Do I have values and do I live according to them?
- What is my PURPOSE?
Remember, empowerment is NOT about regression, stagnation, pity parties or cowardice. It IS about courage and freedom, growth and evolution, taking responsibility, achieving your full potential, having purpose, adding value to the world, being excited for each new day, new opportunity and challenge and every new acquaintance. And conflict, the pursuit of truth, is the means to empower you, to get you there. So WELCOME CONFLICT, see it’s silver lining, learn from it and grow.