Going through a divorce is hard enough without additional complications from outside sources. You want to avoid the drama of a TV or movie courtroom battle; if you had it your way, everyone would be treated fairly, and no one would have to take the fall. And even though you might have the most amazing lawyers, even they can’t be experts in absolutely everything.
The job is simply too big for one man or woman to handle alone. Fortunately, there’s a wide spectrum of professionals trained to help you manage your divorce in ways you probably haven’t considered, but will be glad you did. Here are just five professionals to consider bringing aboard your case:
When you hire a lawyer, their job is to defend your interests. A mediator, however, is not allowed to take sides. A mediator is a third, neutral party brought in to assist the negotiation process, but in a private setting removed from public venues like courtrooms. Mediators can be lawyers, but they can also be therapists, members of clergy, or anyone that you and your spouse trust to make an objective decision for both of you.
One advantage of using mediators is their emotional distance from your case. Their pay does not depend on the outcome of the settlement, only that the settlement happens. That puts them in a position to recommend solutions that you and your spouse have not considered before but that may be mutually beneficial.
- Forensic Accountant
When it comes time to divide your possessions, the particulars can get complicated. Does it make more sense for one spouse to keep the house and another to keep the furniture and car, or to sell everything and split the profits? Is it fair for one spouse to keep the china and for the other to take to take the silverware? When you’re trying to reach a balanced settlement, these small decisions add up to a big headache.
That’s why you want to work with a forensic accountant. They’ll help you not only to decide the worth of your possessions but also to classify your assets as either marital or separate property. They’ll also help to determine both spouses’ true income. All of these will make the settlement process smoother.
- Financial Planners
Over the course of your marriage, you’ve changed the way that you approach personal finances. To sum it up, you went from saying “I” to “we” and “my” to “our” when making financial decisions. Now you’re moving back to the singular, so it’s time to change the habits you’ve developed since going plural. But habits are difficult to break, especially because we often don’t recognize them.
Financial planners come in many roles and with a plethora of offered services, but their shared objective is to help you think and plan in a way you haven’t for a long time. You’ll want to talk with a financial planner on such topics as establishing your current and future financial status, paying court costs, reaching a fair settlement amount, and deciding shared costs for your children. That actually brings us to the next person you’ll want to consult.
- Child Specialist
If you have children, planning for your family is crucial. Once again, you’re going into territory you haven’t explored before, so take a guide with you. While judges and attorneys mean well, their specialties lie elsewhere. Fortunately, there are all kinds of family planning professionals you and your spouse can consult with before reaching the settlement. They can help you establish a strong foundation for your children’s lives post-divorce.
You might consider enlisting a child specialist, a specialized kind of mental health professional. They can act as an intermediary for you and your children and improve how you communicate with one another. The specialist can help you bring the children’s opinions to the table in your settlement discussions and ensure that their needs are being met. They can also help you and your spouse to better explain the situation to your children.
Child specialists can also help you with one of the more difficult tasks ahead of you: coparenting. It is important to establish the ground rules on subjects like discipline, education, etc., and the specialist will help to form a plan that is in the children’s best interest.
As much as you work with professionals to talk with your spouse and move the divorce forward, you need to take some time for yourself. It’s natural to feel stressed during a divorce, and depression may easily follow. Your mental and emotional health is just as important as the final settlement, and it won’t take care of itself.
While you should be able to confide in friends and family during this time, you’ll want the added support of a qualified therapist. This person could be a licensed professional or member of clergy so long they specialize in divorce counseling. You may even consider joining a divorce support group to meet with people who can relate to what you’re going through. Whoever you turn to, you need to be sure that you’re getting the informed support you need to stay afloat when times get tough.
Now, you can search out all of these people on your own, but you could also reach out to a Hart Legal office in California to do it for you. We’ll get you in touch with the right people who offer exactly the services you need. You’re unique, and so is your divorce. You deserve help tailored to your situation.